A pinch of postive chat, a splash of self-awareness and a 'rapid response team' of understanding friends: How Melissa Hemsley deals with anxiety
Feel good chef and author Melissa Hemsley doesn’t always feel good. In fact, the 32-yr-old has admitted that her perfectionist tendencies can sometimes lead to anxiety and overwhelm.
As a recent guest of the Shelf Help:SOHO HOUSE book club the Eat Happy author shared that a combination of too much work, not enough sleep and not knowing how to say 'no’ can make her feel out of control - not great for a Virgo.
But the healthy-cooking expert and self-help fan has learned enough along her journey to spot the signs and take some #selfcare steps to get things back on track when she’s feeling wobbly...
MELISSA HEMSLEY'S ANXIETY TOOLKIT
1. BE AWARE
Know yourself and listen to yourself. Melissa says: “I usually start feeling anxious when I haven't been looking after myself properly, especially when I’m not getting enough sleep, so I know what to do to make it better."
2. POSITIVE SELF-TALK
Don’t let the ‘what-ifs’ or ‘why did/didn't I do that’ thoughts run riot, and talk kindly to yourself.
3. THINK IT THROUGH
"Think a situation through, right to the end and ask what’s the worst that can happen?” she says, “it’s usually a lot more manageable than you first feared.”
4. TALK ABOUT IT
Another, more objective view is often what is needed when we're stuck in our heads, and Melissa has a ‘rapid response team’ of friends on standby to listen and give her pep talks if needed.
5. DON'T FIGHT IT
Own it. If there’s one area of your life that you are particularly anxious, stressed or OCD about then acknowledge and embrace it. Melissa is constantly nervous about leaving a hob on (extra stressful when you cook for a living!) so she chose an electric cooker over a gas stove for her new kitchen to remove that element of angst from her life. “Game changing!” she says.
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BOTM: The Anxiety Solution
This month's Shelf Help Book of the Month is The Anxiety Solution, a simple and inspiring guide to reducing anxiety from former sufferer and qualified hypnotherapist Chloe Brotheridge. This book will help you understand why you feel anxious in the first place and then equip you with techniques to help manage the symptoms and start living a happier, more confident life.
Join us to talk about the book, or just connect and share your stories about anxiety at our weekly Virtual Book Club on Facebook every Monday at 8pm, or in real life at one of our monthly meetups in London and Southampton.