PAUSE: How to press pause before life does it for you

By Danielle Marchant


Strive drive sleep repeat don't miss a beat. Does this sound like your life? Pushing forward with no pauses? If so, how are you feeling right now? Tired? Bored? Lonely? Angry? Stressed? Sad? Fed up? Wired? All of the above?

Pause is a beautiful book that is less about doing and more just ‘being’. Sounds simple, right? But slowing down is much tougher than we think. And it's crucial if we want to live a fulfilling and happy life, and understand more about ourselves and our place in the world, says author and executive coach Danielle Marchant.

Designed as a retreat in book form, Pause provides space, structure and guidance to help you slow down, get quiet, tune in and rebalance so that you can start listening to yourself and hopefully start asking some of the BIG questions. "The Pause isn't about finding quick answers, but about slowing down enough so you can start asking the right questions," says Danielle, "The answers are usually simple. It's the questions that are hard to hear."

"If you never stop to ask yourself how you are doing, how will you ever really know where you are going?"
- Danielle Marchant, Pause


💫 slow down enough to actually breathe

💫 find out how you are doing, what's going well and what you’d like to give more attention to

💫 learn how to use your own wisdom and intuition to direct the next part of your life

💫 learn to take micropauses in times of overwhelm


Danielle told Shelf Help: "I hope that by reading Pause people discover life is not acting against them but for them, in support of them, and that there are constant clues and communication within us and around us if we can slow down enough to hear them."


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In Danielle's own words...

"To begin with my life didn’t turn out how I expected it to.  I grew up in little fishing village in Cornwall and by this age I expected to have settled down with a family and lead a quiet life.

But instead life had other plans for me.

I’ve skydived and heli hiked on glaciers in New Zealand.  I’ve danced til dawn in Rio and trekked the Inca trail to Machu Picchu.  I’ve dived with sharks, sealions and penguins in the Galapagos Islands.

It was anything but quiet, and all of this was fabulous, until life gave me a wake up call.  In 2011 I woke up one day burnt out to the core.  I couldn’t get to out of bed.

I had pushed myself beyond my limits. My body could no longer sustain the breakneck pace. I knew I faced serious long term illness if I didn’t make a change.

The breakdown and burnout was the most painful experience of my life.  I felt so weak and alone, and yet through those tough moments, I managed to slow down the mind chatter and adrenalin…

My extreme lifestyle needed an extreme recovery!

And through this, my business was born.  I’ve always been a coach but suddenly the way I was coaching changed.

It went from setting goals to letting outcomes unravel.

From using formulaic one size fits all models, to an intuitive deep dive into your specific needs.

From following a process to following you.

I started slowing down the pace instead of trying to quickly reach an outcome.

I started weaving conversations about business and life together instead of keeping them separate.

I started working from the inside out rather than the outside in.

I noticed the difference in the results I was getting with my clients.  I started to tap into their true needs and heart desires.

I’m also so thankful my burnout I gave birth to my signature Pause retreats which are designed to help you slow down, reconnect to your heart so you can flow rather than fight with life.

The crazy thing is, I’ve learnt the more I listen to my heart and look after my wellbeing and needs, the more life has guided me to what I truly want.

And now that’s what I’m committed to – helping people reconnect with their hearts and feel good again."

Find out more about Danielle's coaching and retreats at or follow her on Instagram at @lifebydanielle