EVE MANSFIELD, SHELF HELP BOURNEMOUTH

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What is your favourite self-help book? And why?

The Road Less Travelled by Dr Scott Peck is a book my mum gave me when I was just 17 and one of the first real self-help books I began reading. The author is a practicing psychiatrist and he uses real life experience to suggest ways to face difficulties, enabling the reader to reach a higher level of self-understanding. Although quite serious, wordy and at times difficult to get your head around – this book has taught me so much about myself and I will continue to refer back to it at different stages in my life.”

Why did you get involved in Shelf Help?

“I was listening to a podcast where Toni was interviewed as a guest. I immediately wanted to get involved and as a group didn’t exist in Bournemouth I thought why not set one up! I love the idea of creating a community of like-minded people and dis-connecting from the online world.”

What can people expect at your meetups?

“I’d like to create a comfortable, welcoming and supportive space for people to get together and share thoughts about the book of the month (amongst other things no doubt!). No judgements, plenty of laughs and a sense of connection. :) “


JULIE BLAKE, SHELF HELP EAST

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What is your favourite self-help book? And why?

“It’s a toss up between The Miracle Morning’ by Hal Elrod and “The 4-Hour Work Week” by Tim Ferriss. Both changed the way I think about time, and inspired me to make the most out of every day.”

Why did you get involved in Shelf Help?

“I’ve been devouring self help books for at least a decade and was excited to find an official excuse to read even more! I love the concept of building a community around good ideas.”

What can people expect at your meetups?

“Candid conversation over a glass of wine, zero judgement, and a summary of key highlights from our book of the month.”


AMBER LORT-PHILLIPS, SHELF HELP PEMBROKESHIRE

What is your favourite self-help book? And why?

“F**k It is my favourite book because it’s so simple yet very effective. I definitely needed to stop stressing about everything and learn to just say: “F**k It. What will be, will be. Let go and relax.” It worked for me!”

Why did you get involved in Shelf Help?

“I first came across Shelf Help on Facebook and it seemed to be what I was looking for at the time. I loved Toni’s outlook on each book and the honesty ion the group, which made me eat to spread the love of the Shelf Help book club to South West Wales where I live.”

What can people expect at your meetups?

“Great advice, lots of talking, lots of laughs and maybe a bit of good food and drink.”


MELANIE THOMAS, SHELF HELP WEST

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What is your favourite self-help book? And why?

 “The Four Tendencies” by Gretchen Rubin stands out as having the most transformative impact on my life. 

“The Four Tendencies is a personality framework that categorises you as an Upholder, Questioner, Obliger or Rebel based on whether you respond better to external or internal expectations. 

“I took the quiz on Gretchen’s website (available here: https://gretchenrubin.com/2015/01/ta-da-the-launch-of-my-quiz-on-the-four-tendencies-learn-about-yourself/) and (unsurprisingly) came out as a Questioner personality. I did not believe it was correct until I read: “If you are questioning the validity of this framework then you are absolutely a Questioner”!

“Understanding how you and those around you respond to expectation can help you work better, delegate more effectively, get on better with your colleagues, your family and friends. It teaches you how to motivate yourself and motivate others. 

“Gretchen should cut me a cheque for the number of people I have convinced to read this book!

Why did you get involved in Shelf Help?

“This is a conveniently smooth transition… Gretchen Rubin again!

“At the start of the year, having read her books the Happiness Project and the Four Tendencies, I started listening to her podcast ‘Happier by Gretchen Rubin’ during which she discussed an alternative to traditional new year’s resolutions, which tend to be based on restriction and self-punishment, usually falling through by the second week of January. She suggested writing an “18 for 2018” list: 18 things to do that will bring joy and happiness to your life in the year. 

“On my list, I wrote “find a book a club”, and I also set my word of the year: “Growth”.

“Searching online, I found a book club that was discussing Gretchen Rubin’s ‘Better than Before’ – it was a sign! Not only that, but the meetup was running a one-off yoga class beforehand, and was focused on personal growth. It felt like the stars aligned.”

What can people expect at your meetups?

“At my meetups, you can expect to discover new ideas, connect to others through shared experiences and hopefully, leave with a little more self-knowledge, and a little more to think about, than when you arrived.”

 

HOLLY Davidson, SHELF HELP NEWCASTLE

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What is your favourite self-help book? And why?

Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert because it gave me a unique perspective on the power of ideas and creativity. It helped shed light on finding inspiration in my day to day life and enabled me to have greater courage and permission to express myself. Reading this book makes the World feel like a magical place to be.”

Why did you get involved in Shelf Help?

“Reading has always been a big part of my life. Self-development books in particular have helped me navigate my personal and professional life. I love the learning and inspiration that is gained from reading these books and enjoy putting the author's tools and ideas to the test. Having searched for a new hobby for a while, I couldn't resist the opportunity to meet like-minded people and spend quality time discussing important life topics.”

What can people expect at your meetups?

“Kindness, compassion and confidentiality will be at the heart of the meetup group's ethos. You can expect to feel at ease, to enjoy like-minded company and to go away with an extra little spring in your step. “


KATELYN ARROYO, SHELF HELP ONTARIO

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What is your favourite self-help book? And why?

“My favourite self-help book is The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown because it taught me the power behind living life and showing up every day with my whole heart. My journey of self discovery and growth has taught me to let go of trying to be perfect in everyone else’s eyes and instead find the courage to know that I am enough.”

Why did you get involved in Shelf Help?

“I became involved in Shelf Help because I believe in surrounding myself with like-minded people. I am excited to create a safe and positive space for women to share their thoughts and dreams, and to celebrate our desire to live up to our fullest potential.”

What can people expect at your meetups?

“People can expect a space that feels warm,  safe, and inspiring. I hope that our monthly meets can influence each person to pause and focus on self-discovery through laughing, sharing, learning, and dreaming.”


Paula sanchez, Shelf Help Central

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What is your favourite self-help book? And why?

“Heart Talk by Cleo Wade – Technically it comes under ‘poetry’ but the way she writes is so beautiful and easily relatable that for me this is daily self-help.

“I keep it by my bedside and read any page each day, morning and night, to start and end the day with good thoughts.”

Why did you get involved in Shelf Help?

“I really wanted to meet like-minded people who not only enjoy reading the same books but also enjoy getting lost in conversation about the real life topics they touch on.

“I think it’s so healthy to be able to speak openly about things which we don’t all naturally bring up in to conversation.”

What can people expect at your meetups?

“Absolutely everyone is welcome so you can expect to have really meaningful and thought provoking conversations with complete strangers from totally different backgrounds.

“I always feel that wonderful feeling of ‘wow, I’m really not the only one who feels / thinks like that’ so I hope others can experience that too.”


JULIE JONES, SHELF HELP SOUTHAMPTON

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What is your favourite self-help book? And why?

“I didn’t have one before SH but now I have three:

  1. The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a f**k by Sarah Knight 

  2. The Inside-Out Guide to the REAL You by Claire Dimond

  3. The Code of the Extraordinary Mind by Vishen Lakhiani”

Why did you get involved in Shelf Help?

“The concept of bringing together people who are inspired to develop themselves in a safe space of no judgement resonated with me. As did the idea of people supporting each other to be the best version of themselves and also connecting people through positivity and talking responsibility for their own lives.”

What can people expect at your meetups?

“A little silliness, a little seriousness, lots of honesty, humility and reservoirs of unconditional support and love to help us see other people’s perspectives and alternate realities to our daily challenges thorough new, judgement free eyes without ego or obligation.”


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EMILY O’NEILL, SHELF HELP ESSEX

What is your favourite self-help book? And why?

“My favourite self-help book is The Chimp Paradox by Prof Steve Peters. This book resonated with me as it explains the struggle that can often take place within your mind, helping you understand how your mind works with helpful tips on how to manage your thoughts.”

Why did you get involved in Shelf Help?

“I have been reading self-help books since my early teenage years, I have always wanted to meet like-minded people who also enjoy reading these books. One evening after finishing another book, I found myself on Google looking for self-help book recommendations when I found the Shelf Help website. I followed the Shelf Help Club on social media for a couple of weeks and then spontaneously bought tickets for their Birthday event, as soon as the day ended it became a movement that I am extremely passionate about and ecstatic that I have become part of this welcoming community.“

What can people expect at your meetups?

“You can expect exactly what Shelf Help is all about, connecting like-minded people based on the principles of kindness, confidentiality and no judgement. I wish to create a supporting and friendly network of people who look forward to coming to each meetup whilst, hopefully, making a positive difference to each members’ lives.”


 

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